“That was so helpful, I can now see light at the end of the tunnel and feel I can
Widow who couldn’t see a future after her beloved husband died and she was struggling
to decide where and how to live the next chapter of her life.
Loss Adjustment Factors
How you interpret the situation
What you focus your thoughts and activities on
If you take responsibility for what you can do now, or feel helpless and blame things
/ people / situations outside your control (or which you think are outside your control)
What you eat and drink ( booze and other drugs make things worse, not eating properly
affects your mood and well being)
Exercise and environment (E-motion moves and so should you, when you are feeling
stuck or depressed change your position, take a deep breath, get outside, do something
different, exercise, go somewhere that makes you smile)
What you believe about your purpose in life and plans for the future
The affect of others in your lives who may also be experiencing the loss adjustment
cycle and be at a different stage to you. (Maybe they are still angry)
What we do
Using various approaches, we can help you to
Lift the heavy feelings or grief, anger, sadness, guilt so that you can move forward
Facilitate you focusing on what you want rather than what you don’t want
Enable you to clarify what is important
Reduce conflict or bitterness and increase understanding
Help you overcome fears and see new choices
Be an impartial support and someone neutral you can talk to
Loosing the love of your life is devastating. However, if after the shock and some
time to take it in, the grief or guilt is still overwhelming and you just can’t see
a future, find a purpose in your life or stop crying, then we would like to help.
People who have put so much effort into their career or business and then loose it,
will experience all sort of emotions including loss, anger, failure, depression,
fear, money worries, rejection. Also perhaps determination to make the next career
or business one that sustains more of their needs. We can help you make the transition
a positive one
Mums and Dads can realise when the kids fly the nest, that their joint purpose which
bound them together, was to provide for their children. Once they are gone, parents
can experience have a strong sense of loss of purpose. A good time to step back
and take stock of what you value in life and focus on how you want to grow.
Bob’s wife died suddenly 18 months ago leaving 2 young sons and a husband who lost
his motivation in life. After only one session he reported
“I feel like a dark curtain has been lifted and I can see the way forward again.
It looks bright and I feel positive about the future again”
Session 2 enabled him to change his belief that asking for help was a sign of weakness.
It was fantastic to see the change in him as he organized help for his business too
and with school runs and holiday cover for his boys.
Suffering from a Loss or Bereavement?
Loss includes loss of a loved one, loss of a marriage, loss of a role, job or business,
loss of a lifestyle or dream.